How to Talk to Your Child About Romantic Relationships

December 10th, 2019 by Editor | Permalink

Blame it on the movies or television or Internet, but your child will approach you one day and ask about romantic relationships. It’s an unavoidable topic especially if the child is having his/her first crush and doesn’t know what to make of the feelings.

Here are some tips on how to discuss caring and healthy relationships and why they need your consent.

Romantic Love versus Platonic Love

You might have heard some kids express how they want to marry one of their parents or their siblings when they grow up, but don’t worry, because most child psychologists will tell you that there is nothing romantic or sexual about the child’s feelings. Children cannot yet distinguish between romantic love and platonic love, that is why try to respond as neutral as possible. It’s just how the child expresses his/her love for family members the best way he/she knows how.

Don’t Use Guilt and Anger

If you feel uncomfortable about how a child is behaving towards others, do not put him/her on the defensive by focusing only on the behavior, because that is not the cause of the problem.

If conflicts arise in school because your child is trying to chase another child he/she likes, talk to the child about how bullying should never be used to express feelings for another person. Some kids might resort to hurting, teasing, and name-calling other kids that they like, but calmly explain that these will only frighten or possibly start fights with other kids.

Find Time to Talk About Your Experiences

How children will handle their romantic relationships in the future is reflective of how you and your partner interact. The parents are their models for communication, human interaction, and respect, even if their friends, classmates, and media can also affect how they think about romance in general. However, you can use media for example to discuss things you’re not comfortable starting a conversation about. Encourage friendship and love for people, because this is the best way to practice empathy, kindness, and respect—all important factors in any relationship.

Offer Advice but Let the Child Deal with It

When your child is going through puberty, it’s also usually the time he/she experiences his/her first love and heartbreak. Most child psychologists will advise you to refrain from giving the child ideas on what to do based on your own experiences, and do not belittle or embarrass them for their feelings.

Do not assume that the other person is bad for your child, because it would be better to let him/her figure out what to do with the feelings. Make him/her understand that there will be ups and downs when it comes to love, and that chemistry alone between two people sometimes is not enough to create lasting and fulfilling relationships.

How Can You Tell if You’re Addicted to Gambling?

December 9th, 2019 by Editor | Permalink

For most people, gambling is just another form of hobby played with friends, but there are individuals who gamble not just for money and prizes, but because they want to chase losses and because it’s almost like routine. How can you tell if you’re in need of help from gambling addiction?

What Type of Gambler are You?

Identify whether you’re an action gambler or an escape gambler, because one of these can be the first indicator of gambling addiction.

  • An action gambler usually prefers betting on sports, racing, poker, and other skill-type games. Their mindset is guided by the belief that they can find patterns in the system that will give them an advantage over other gamblers, making them more likely to beat the odds. Action gamblers also usually start young unlike the escape gamblers.
  • Escape gamblers on the other hand, get into the habit to escape their other problems, such as stress, depression, bad marriage, and money issues. They usually prefer games that will take their mind off their problems, such as bingo, lottery, slots, and others.

Stages of Gambling Addiction

Most of us have gambled at one point in our lives, but we consider gambling as just like any other game. Gambling addiction on the other hand usually has a pattern.

  • Winning Stage. This is the discovery stage where the person feels for the first time what it’s like to win. At this point, the gambler is just enjoying the win to forget problems in life and do not use up the time and money to play some more.
  • Losing Stage. Gambling, however, does not guarantee a win all the time. Once the person has experienced winning, he/she will be seeking that feeling again through gambling, and will be more inclined to spend more money to win just to make up for the losses. There is a feeling that if he/she can win again, it will make up for all the time and money lost in the process, but if the losing streak continues, the guilt and shame slowly takes over the happy feeling from winning.
  • Desperation Stage. By this time, the gambler would be more likely to use his/her money to fund the obsession, resulting in tense relationships at home and at work, mounting financial problems, and mental and physical problems.

Signs of Gambling Addiction

Like any other type of addiction, gambling addiction could be just a symptom of another problem. If a loved one shows any of the following signs, look for help immediately:

  • Financial problems (debts, late bills and collection notices, disappearing items at home, high-risk investments, etc.)
  • Secrets about money or lying about money (lack of funds to pay for the bills, but has a stash of money for gambling)
  • Missing work or being late to work more often
  • Reduction in the quality of work or failure to meet deadlines
  • Failing relationships at home, work or school
  • Irritation, lack of sleep, depression, and attempts to end life

20 Flowering Plants for a Small Garden

October 12th, 2019 by Editor | Permalink

Besides herbs, flowers are the best type of plants to care for in your small garden in Singapore. They don’t need a lot of space and attention, but they can add color in your dull surroundings.

Here are some of the most common flowers you can care for in your garden.

Anthurium can be grown using seeds, tissue culture, vegetative reproduction or fertilization. It can grow on different soil types that can retain a lot of water, but in a pot with good drainage.

Bougainvillea is drought-resistant and can grow in any type of soil with good drainage and adequate sunlight.

Canna Durban does not multiply fast like other related types and will tolerate almost any soil type. It can also thrive in humid and dry weather and under the direct heat of sunlight.

Celosia has several seeds that will grow fast in your plant box and that will need full sunlight and moist soil.

Chamomile thrives in full sunlight and sandy, moist soil. However, it needs regular watering to grow healthy.

Chrysanthemum requires full sunlight and has a long flowering period. It doesn’t need a lot of water and can be grown by transplanting seeds.

Dahlia has tubers for roots, which can grow big depending on the amount of nutrients it gets daily.

Daisy can thrive in full sunlight and in moist, but well-drained soil. It’s also a low-maintenance plant.

Dianthus need at least 6 hours of sunlight to thrive and alkaline soil. When watering the dianthus, try to limit the water on the base without getting the foliage wet, because it’s prone to mildew.

Geranium also need a lot of light and soil with equal amounts of peat, perlite, and earth.

Impatiens needs humus-rich soil and must be placed in areas away from the wind. The flower bed must have enough space, too.

Lavender needs 6 hours of sunlight in a soil with a pH of 7 or 8. It also thrives in dry conditions, so make sure that the soil has proper drainage.

Marigold can withstand hot weather and grows in almost any soil type, but you should use a soil-based mix if you’re planning to plant it in a flower box.

Morning Glory needs a lot of sunlight and moderately-fertile soil. Don’t place it in areas where it will be exposed to dry wind.

Orchid Family are known for their resiliency, but each orchid has specific needs depending on their light sensitivity and the growing media.

Pansy flowers need well-prepared acidic soil with compost in a deep planting box.

Petunia can thrive even in hot and dry soil, but you should water it every few days and use fertilizers.

Rose requires at least 1 inch of water every week, but you have to watch out for fungal diseases.

Snapdragon should be placed in areas with partial shade and adequate water.

Sunflower needs a lot of sunlight and can grow in any soil type. You have to harvest the seeds before they fall out, however, because it’s toxic to grass.

Types of Paint to Use for Your House

October 12th, 2019 by Editor | Permalink

The paint for the exterior and interior of your house is not just used to decorate and add color to the spaces, but it also protects the surfaces from the elements.

Most paints are categorized into two different types, water-based and oil-based, but you can’t just paint on the surface right away, because you need base coats first before the application of the finish coats.

Here are the things you need to know before choosing the paint and painting materials.

Categories of Paint

There are different products used for the interior and the exterior of the house, but if you want the paint to last long, designers recommend the oil-based paint for the exterior and water-based paint for the interior walls.

Oil-Based Paint – This type of paint dries slowly, but it gives a shiny finish and it’s more durable than water-based paints.

Water-Based Paint – This type of paint evaporates and dries quickly, but will not produce a shiny finish and is not as durable as oil-based paint.

Latex – This is just another name for water-based paint, but the product does not contain latex at all.

Enamel – This is another name for oil-based paint and comes in either semi-gloss and gloss finishes. Enamel is recommended for exterior surfaces because of its durability and hardness.

Acrylic – This is also a name for water-based paints, but unlike latex, it has an acrylic binding agent. It comes in enamel, latex, and latex enamel forms.

Specialty Paints – These are paints that include additives such as fire retardants, anti-mold, and anti-mildew, anti-condensation, and other properties.

Base Coats

Primer acts as a protection for surfaces that have not been painted on yet. The primer for masonry and plaster uses latex diluted with water, while tiles use special primers.

First Coat is applied in one or two coats before the finish coats are painted to build up the latter’s opacity.

Finish Coats

Flat is a porous type of paint that will not reflect any light. It can be used to hide flaws on the walls and other surfaces, but it should not be painted on doors, floors, and windows because it isn’t durable.

Eggshell creates a shiny surface, but it’s not as smooth as satin. It can be applied with a single coat and is easy to use if you want to paint the walls yourself.

Matte doesn’t produce any shine, but it takes several coatings to create a solid color. Matte enamel is a more durable variety that is easier to clean and retouch than the matte paint.

Gloss paint is the most durable type and creates a shiny look on the surface because it reflects a lot of light. Use this only on surfaces that need details, because you don’t want your home to look like a plastic doll house.

Satin isn’t glossy or flat and is more durable than the latter. It can be used on doors, floors, and windows.

The Best Survival Video Games

September 16th, 2019 by Editor | Permalink

The number of post-apocalyptic and zombie movies and books may be finally dwindling, but shooting the undead or invading alien species can be fun if you’re bored. Some of these titles do not require any skill except how fast you can point and shoot, but others need more resourcefulness from gamers.

Here are the best survival games you should try.

The Forest (2014)

As the title suggests, the game is set in a forest island where the player controls one of the characters who survived a plane crash. The goal is to survive as long as possible using the meagre supplies all over the forest, while avoiding the cannibals.

7 Days to Die (2013)

Set after a nuclear world war, the player controls one of the survivors of by scavenging for supplies in a wasteland populated by zombies. Sounds easy, right? The zombies, however, get stronger as the days pass especially at night.

State of Decay (2013)

This survival game challenges the player not as a lone survivor, but as part of a group scavenging for limited resources in a zombie-infested land. This means setting up defenses against the attackers, but also managing group problems with the other survivors.

Minecraft (2011)

This is a different take on the word survival, because you will be dropped in a generated world where you decide what you want to do with your character. You can either build, create, explore, gather resources, or fight creatures.

Sheltered (2016)

Another post-apocalyptic game, the player must help a family survive in an underground facility threatened by starvation and radiation poisoning.

Don’t Starve (2013)

In the game, the player controls Wilson, who finds himself in an unfamiliar world populated by supernatural elements who are after him. At daytime, Wilson must gather resources to survive the terrors of the night.

Terraria (2011)

Another sandbox game, Terraria includes features such as crafting and building besides the usual formula of exploration plus combat. Completing goals means attracting more characters in player-built areas.

Rust (2013)

This multiplayer-only game will challenge players to gather and craft items in the area by commencing the adventure with only two items in hand; a torch and a rock. You may choose to join clans later to hunt animals and craft more items.

Stranded Deep (2015)

The player controls a character who crashed in an island in the Pacific and must try to survive using the resources of the ocean. What makes this game even more challenging is the cap on the number of items that your character is allowed to carry.

This War of Mine (2014)

The game is inspired by the Siege of Sarajevo in the Bosnian War of the early 90s and explores the effects of the conflict on the affected civilians. The decisions made in the game lead to different endings.

What Happens During an Appendectomy

September 16th, 2019 by Editor | Permalink

Appendectomy is the name of the procedure that involves the removal of an inflamed or swollen appendix. Although common, it’s considered an emergency procedure because failure to remove the appendix can be life-threatening when it bursts.

Appendicitis Symptoms

Appendectomy is performed when the patient shows signs of appendicitis, which usually includes the following symptoms: fever, diarrhea, vomiting, nausea, loss of appetite, painful urination, frequent urination, tenderness on the McBurney’s point, and pain in the bellybutton area or the lower part of the abdomen.

The appendix is inflamed due to bacterial infection and a buildup of pus, bacteria, stool, mucus, or a foreign body.

Appendectomy Procedures

Patients who are about to undergo appendectomy are given instructions about the procedure. The inflamed appendix must be removed within 48 to 72 of the appearance of the symptoms and is treated as an emergency surgery. The individual is advised not to eat anything 8 hours before the procedure and is given medications and antibiotics through an IV drip.

The patient will be under anesthesia during the procedure, which might last up to an hour.

These are two types of appendectomy performed today:

  • Laparoscopic Appendectomy – This procedure uses a laparoscope (video camera) inside the patient’s body through a small incision. Carbon dioxide gas is used to make your abdomen swell, then the camera will locate the appendix so that small incisions can be made in the area to remove the appendix. This procedure, however, can cause more pain and scarring than open appendectomy.
  • Open Appendectomy – The surgeon creates an incision in the abdomen to look for the appendix, which is then tied and cut off from the large intestine. If the appendix ruptures, the abdomen is washed with salt water.

After the procedure, the appendix is sent to a laboratory for testing, then the incisions are closed with stitches.

Recover and Complications

Although the complications of both types of procedures are minor, there is still a risk of infection, bleeding, inflammation, blocked bowels, and injury to other organs. In some cases, peritonitis or the rupture of the appendix can occur during surgery and will cause infection and swelling.

Laparoscopic appendectomy has a shorter recovery time. You will be given medications if there is pain and will be allowed to eat food a few hours after the procedure.

You should watch out for any of the following symptoms while recovering: fever and chills, drainage and bleeding, pain, vomiting and loss of appetite, inability to hold down food, cramps and belly pain, watery diarrhea for three days or no bowel movement for two days, and shortness of breath. Follow-up checkups are required within the next 2 weeks to determine if you are recovering well.

You might also need to stay away from strenuous activities for four to six weeks until the doctor tells you you’ve fully recovered.