6 Reminders to Comfort You in Times of Loneliness

Your heart starts beating faster, your body temperature rises, tears are slowly gathering in your eyes, and the stories in your mind are getting out of hand—as though you’re about to see your life and dreams all crashing down under you.

Sometimes, when loneliness takes over, for whatever reason, it can make anyone feel powerless—except that isn’t true. It’s normal and human to feel like this but we are the owners of this feeling, and we have the power to will it away.

When days get a little rough, may these simple and real life reminders comfort you:

1. This too shall pass, and faster if I don’t resist it
It is a wave that you must allow to hit you—ride the current and let it take you somewhere for a little while until it passes. Going against the tide will prolong your struggle; strong waves will eventually spit you out so just go where the flow is and it is going to be alright.

2. Your thoughts hurt you when you allow them to
Thoughts are only what they seem. They do not bear meanings unless you let them. When they visit your head, allow them to come in and go out, but do not fuel them nor make them stay. They are not necessarily your reality and often times, they do not represent it. You have to assert power over them.

3. There is no need for you to have everything figured out right now
You don’t need to figure out everything you are supposed to do or not in your life in one sitting. Take one day at a time, breathe, calm your mind and heart, and then you can make clearer, better decisions. Remember that life is a marathon and not a sprint.

4. Your time will come and never doubt that even for a second
The right circumstances will never skip the person whom they are meant for. You may be struggling about achieving your dreams or due to other things right now, but every person in this world has his own time to shine, you just have to believe your own.

5. You will get out of this and this can make you braver
What pains you is what can actually strengthen you. You can manage whatever happens, it does not matter how many times it hit you, what matters is the fact you choose to stand up every single time—and that is bravery. Remind yourself that you are way stronger now than what you were before.

6. A lot more things are going right
Notice the little things that are going right for you. You are safe, someone loves you, you are not hungry, you are not homeless, and you have a job. Keep this going until you feel the anxiety and tension leaving. As Goh Keng Swee says, to avoid wrong things is to do nothing at all, and that is the ultimate wrong act. Slowly but surely, you can clean up your mind from unwanted thoughts. Count your blessings.

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