Different Types of Ear Piercings to Choose From

January 30th, 2020 by Editor | Permalink

Are you thinking of adding more ear piercings soon? Before deciding, you should be familiar with the different types of ear piercings and how long they can fully heal. Here are 16 types of ear piercings.

Lobe – The lobe is a soft part of the ear that is why it is the least painful when pierced. The standard lobe piercing takes about 6 weeks to fully heal.

Upper Lobe – This means placing the piercing slightly above where the standard lobe piercing is placed. It takes about the same time the lobe piercing will heal.

Graduate Lobe – If you want to place several earrings on your lobes, then this is the perfect style for you. The piercings are spaced equally on the lobe.

Transverse Lobe – The type of earrings needed for this is a barbell so that the earlobe is pierced horizontally to make the earrings pass through both punctures. It might take more time to heal than a standard lobe piercing probably because of the unusual position.

Conch – There are two types of this piercing, inner and outer, in which a perforation is made on the cartilage. It can take up to 6 months to heal.

Auricle – The piercing is located on the middle of the outer ear rim. This is quite painful because of the nerves located in the area.

Helix – For this type, the upper cartilage is pierced. It is quite painful and can take 6 to 12 months to fully heal.

Forward Helix – The helix has three piercings spaced apart evenly. The punctures are inserted with studs and can be very painful. It will also take months to heal.

Tragus – The piercing is done on the outer ear near your face, which is why it is also prone to infections.

Anti-Tragus – The piercing is located adjacent to the tragus but this is less likely to get infected when cared for properly. It can take up to 16 weeks to fully heal.

Rook – The piercing is placed on the upper inner ear fold. It can be very painful and might be irritated while still healing. It takes 12 months to heal.

Snug – Also called anti-helix, the earrings are placed in the inner ear adjacent of the helix. It is painful but at least the cartilage is thinner.

Daith – The piercing is placed on the inner cartilage fold. It can be painful but is easier to care for than the tragus piercing.

Industrial – Also called scaffold, two punctures are placed on the upper cartilage while one earring passes through both. Looks really cool but it takes 6 to 12 months to heal.

Orbital – This is a type of industrial piercing but the punctures are connected from the front.

Ear Weaving – As the name suggests, this piercing consists of several piercings connected by one piece of jewelry.

Most are helix piercings to imitate the shape of a spiral. It can be painful and is not recommended if you don’t have previous experience caring for ear piercings.

4 Tips for Providing Constructive Criticism

January 30th, 2020 by Editor | Permalink

We all know that criticism and feedback are important for people to learn and grow. But there’s almost a fine line between constructive criticism and negative criticism. Of course, the former is necessary for growth while the latter simply hinders it. Now, giving constructive criticism will help you build better relationships with your peers while also helping them improve themselves. So, here’s how you can do it.

1.  Use the positive-negative-positive approach

This method is also called the feedback sandwich. Basically, you start by mentioning the great things this person has done and the positive results of his/her efforts. After that, you then give the criticism, specifically the mistakes made and how it affects the task.

Next, finish by mentioning the positive things again and giving the person feedback on how they can improve. This is only one of the many effective ways to provide constructive criticism. If you’re having difficulty giving constructive criticism, the feedback sandwich should be your go-to.

2.  Stay calm so that you can deliver your opinions well

One of the most common mistakes we make when giving criticism is that we let our emotions take over. For instance, if the person we’re about to confront is someone we don’t exactly like, chances are we’ll add some sarcasm or some light insults.

This is a very big mistake to make and will likely ruin your relationships in the workplace. Even if the person is someone you don’t see eye to eye with, try you’re best to stay levelheaded. The key here, really, is simply to not fuel the flames by acting on impulse.

3.  Give criticism in private

Let’s face it, no one wants to be criticized in public. Giving constructive criticism should be fine when there are people around, but it might still leave an effect on the other person. That’s why you should always consider providing criticism in private.

You can save the other person from the embarrassment and it will also help him/her make the improvements quicker. The only exception to this is if you think others can learn from the situation simultaneously or if they made the mistake as a group.

4.  It’s always better to be specific

Another mistake that’s commonly made is giving feedback that’s too vague. Sometimes the other person will not understand what exactly he/she did wrong or what exactly it is you want from them. Whether you’re pointing out their mistakes or giving suggestions for improvement, you should always try to be specific.

This will help them recover more quickly and also understand what you want from them better. By giving them specific feedback, they won’t have to think about what’s right or wrong and just act on the task directly.

How to Talk to Your Child About Romantic Relationships

December 10th, 2019 by Editor | Permalink

Blame it on the movies or television or Internet, but your child will approach you one day and ask about romantic relationships. It’s an unavoidable topic especially if the child is having his/her first crush and doesn’t know what to make of the feelings.

Here are some tips on how to discuss caring and healthy relationships and why they need your consent.

Romantic Love versus Platonic Love

You might have heard some kids express how they want to marry one of their parents or their siblings when they grow up, but don’t worry, because most child psychologists will tell you that there is nothing romantic or sexual about the child’s feelings. Children cannot yet distinguish between romantic love and platonic love, that is why try to respond as neutral as possible. It’s just how the child expresses his/her love for family members the best way he/she knows how.

Don’t Use Guilt and Anger

If you feel uncomfortable about how a child is behaving towards others, do not put him/her on the defensive by focusing only on the behavior, because that is not the cause of the problem.

If conflicts arise in school because your child is trying to chase another child he/she likes, talk to the child about how bullying should never be used to express feelings for another person. Some kids might resort to hurting, teasing, and name-calling other kids that they like, but calmly explain that these will only frighten or possibly start fights with other kids.

Find Time to Talk About Your Experiences

How children will handle their romantic relationships in the future is reflective of how you and your partner interact. The parents are their models for communication, human interaction, and respect, even if their friends, classmates, and media can also affect how they think about romance in general. However, you can use media for example to discuss things you’re not comfortable starting a conversation about. Encourage friendship and love for people, because this is the best way to practice empathy, kindness, and respect—all important factors in any relationship.

Offer Advice but Let the Child Deal with It

When your child is going through puberty, it’s also usually the time he/she experiences his/her first love and heartbreak. Most child psychologists will advise you to refrain from giving the child ideas on what to do based on your own experiences, and do not belittle or embarrass them for their feelings.

Do not assume that the other person is bad for your child, because it would be better to let him/her figure out what to do with the feelings. Make him/her understand that there will be ups and downs when it comes to love, and that chemistry alone between two people sometimes is not enough to create lasting and fulfilling relationships.

How Can You Tell if You’re Addicted to Gambling?

December 9th, 2019 by Editor | Permalink

For most people, gambling is just another form of hobby played with friends, but there are individuals who gamble not just for money and prizes, but because they want to chase losses and because it’s almost like routine. How can you tell if you’re in need of help from gambling addiction?

What Type of Gambler are You?

Identify whether you’re an action gambler or an escape gambler, because one of these can be the first indicator of gambling addiction.

  • An action gambler usually prefers betting on sports, racing, poker, and other skill-type games. Their mindset is guided by the belief that they can find patterns in the system that will give them an advantage over other gamblers, making them more likely to beat the odds. Action gamblers also usually start young unlike the escape gamblers.
  • Escape gamblers on the other hand, get into the habit to escape their other problems, such as stress, depression, bad marriage, and money issues. They usually prefer games that will take their mind off their problems, such as bingo, lottery, slots, and others.

Stages of Gambling Addiction

Most of us have gambled at one point in our lives, but we consider gambling as just like any other game. Gambling addiction on the other hand usually has a pattern.

  • Winning Stage. This is the discovery stage where the person feels for the first time what it’s like to win. At this point, the gambler is just enjoying the win to forget problems in life and do not use up the time and money to play some more.
  • Losing Stage. Gambling, however, does not guarantee a win all the time. Once the person has experienced winning, he/she will be seeking that feeling again through gambling, and will be more inclined to spend more money to win just to make up for the losses. There is a feeling that if he/she can win again, it will make up for all the time and money lost in the process, but if the losing streak continues, the guilt and shame slowly takes over the happy feeling from winning.
  • Desperation Stage. By this time, the gambler would be more likely to use his/her money to fund the obsession, resulting in tense relationships at home and at work, mounting financial problems, and mental and physical problems.

Signs of Gambling Addiction

Like any other type of addiction, gambling addiction could be just a symptom of another problem. If a loved one shows any of the following signs, look for help immediately:

  • Financial problems (debts, late bills and collection notices, disappearing items at home, high-risk investments, etc.)
  • Secrets about money or lying about money (lack of funds to pay for the bills, but has a stash of money for gambling)
  • Missing work or being late to work more often
  • Reduction in the quality of work or failure to meet deadlines
  • Failing relationships at home, work or school
  • Irritation, lack of sleep, depression, and attempts to end life

20 Flowering Plants for a Small Garden

October 12th, 2019 by Editor | Permalink

Besides herbs, flowers are the best type of plants to care for in your small garden in Singapore. They don’t need a lot of space and attention, but they can add color in your dull surroundings.

Here are some of the most common flowers you can care for in your garden.

Anthurium can be grown using seeds, tissue culture, vegetative reproduction or fertilization. It can grow on different soil types that can retain a lot of water, but in a pot with good drainage.

Bougainvillea is drought-resistant and can grow in any type of soil with good drainage and adequate sunlight.

Canna Durban does not multiply fast like other related types and will tolerate almost any soil type. It can also thrive in humid and dry weather and under the direct heat of sunlight.

Celosia has several seeds that will grow fast in your plant box and that will need full sunlight and moist soil.

Chamomile thrives in full sunlight and sandy, moist soil. However, it needs regular watering to grow healthy.

Chrysanthemum requires full sunlight and has a long flowering period. It doesn’t need a lot of water and can be grown by transplanting seeds.

Dahlia has tubers for roots, which can grow big depending on the amount of nutrients it gets daily.

Daisy can thrive in full sunlight and in moist, but well-drained soil. It’s also a low-maintenance plant.

Dianthus need at least 6 hours of sunlight to thrive and alkaline soil. When watering the dianthus, try to limit the water on the base without getting the foliage wet, because it’s prone to mildew.

Geranium also need a lot of light and soil with equal amounts of peat, perlite, and earth.

Impatiens needs humus-rich soil and must be placed in areas away from the wind. The flower bed must have enough space, too.

Lavender needs 6 hours of sunlight in a soil with a pH of 7 or 8. It also thrives in dry conditions, so make sure that the soil has proper drainage.

Marigold can withstand hot weather and grows in almost any soil type, but you should use a soil-based mix if you’re planning to plant it in a flower box.

Morning Glory needs a lot of sunlight and moderately-fertile soil. Don’t place it in areas where it will be exposed to dry wind.

Orchid Family are known for their resiliency, but each orchid has specific needs depending on their light sensitivity and the growing media.

Pansy flowers need well-prepared acidic soil with compost in a deep planting box.

Petunia can thrive even in hot and dry soil, but you should water it every few days and use fertilizers.

Rose requires at least 1 inch of water every week, but you have to watch out for fungal diseases.

Snapdragon should be placed in areas with partial shade and adequate water.

Sunflower needs a lot of sunlight and can grow in any soil type. You have to harvest the seeds before they fall out, however, because it’s toxic to grass.

Types of Paint to Use for Your House

October 12th, 2019 by Editor | Permalink

The paint for the exterior and interior of your house is not just used to decorate and add color to the spaces, but it also protects the surfaces from the elements.

Most paints are categorized into two different types, water-based and oil-based, but you can’t just paint on the surface right away, because you need base coats first before the application of the finish coats.

Here are the things you need to know before choosing the paint and painting materials.

Categories of Paint

There are different products used for the interior and the exterior of the house, but if you want the paint to last long, designers recommend the oil-based paint for the exterior and water-based paint for the interior walls.

Oil-Based Paint – This type of paint dries slowly, but it gives a shiny finish and it’s more durable than water-based paints.

Water-Based Paint – This type of paint evaporates and dries quickly, but will not produce a shiny finish and is not as durable as oil-based paint.

Latex – This is just another name for water-based paint, but the product does not contain latex at all.

Enamel – This is another name for oil-based paint and comes in either semi-gloss and gloss finishes. Enamel is recommended for exterior surfaces because of its durability and hardness.

Acrylic – This is also a name for water-based paints, but unlike latex, it has an acrylic binding agent. It comes in enamel, latex, and latex enamel forms.

Specialty Paints – These are paints that include additives such as fire retardants, anti-mold, and anti-mildew, anti-condensation, and other properties.

Base Coats

Primer acts as a protection for surfaces that have not been painted on yet. The primer for masonry and plaster uses latex diluted with water, while tiles use special primers.

First Coat is applied in one or two coats before the finish coats are painted to build up the latter’s opacity.

Finish Coats

Flat is a porous type of paint that will not reflect any light. It can be used to hide flaws on the walls and other surfaces, but it should not be painted on doors, floors, and windows because it isn’t durable.

Eggshell creates a shiny surface, but it’s not as smooth as satin. It can be applied with a single coat and is easy to use if you want to paint the walls yourself.

Matte doesn’t produce any shine, but it takes several coatings to create a solid color. Matte enamel is a more durable variety that is easier to clean and retouch than the matte paint.

Gloss paint is the most durable type and creates a shiny look on the surface because it reflects a lot of light. Use this only on surfaces that need details, because you don’t want your home to look like a plastic doll house.

Satin isn’t glossy or flat and is more durable than the latter. It can be used on doors, floors, and windows.